As a culture, I think we are coming to a greater understanding that something as "simple" as a Mother's Day blessing is much more complex than we might have ever known or imagined it could be--and for a lot of reasons. I'm certainly finding that to be the case this year. It's hard to put flowers and sparkles on something that encompasses the holistic and difficult work of bringing something--anything-- to birth.
Maybe it's my inner Doula, or the permission to speak more inclusively in this space than Hallmark cards or generic blessings allow, but in addition to my own mother and those who have made me a mom, I want to gratefully acknowledge and pray for the "other mothers" who have shown me what it looks like to bring about life in this world.
With gratitude this Mother's Day, I pray for:
Women whose hearts burn for justice and offer their presence and compassion to a hurting world;
Vowed religious women whose vocation has, in turn, nurtured and been family to countless individuals over time;
Women who are waiting-- for an adoption placement or a positive pregnancy test;
Those whose words, music or artwork soften my heart and allow me to see with new eyes;
Women who have grieved the loss of their child(ren) at any stage, and in any circumstance, who continue to hold fast to their memory;
Women who do the work of researching, teaching, growing, mentoring, healing, creating, listening, coaching, ministering, volunteering, peace-making, and offer all of these as gift;
Biological mothers who give life so that another might embrace motherhood;
Daycare providers, Aunts, Godmothers, case workers and foster parents who care for and love the child of another;
All for whom this day is a painful one--and for sensitivity to that;
For greater eagerness to celebrate those in our lives who are called to bring important work to birth.